Towards A Successful Marriage by Majeedah Ashim Idris

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TOWARDS A
SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
MAJEEDAH ASHIM IDRIS
(UMM SUMAYYAH MAI)
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TABLE OF CONTENT
Dedication.
Acknowledgements.
Foreword
Preface
Why Marriage Is Important..
Pre-marital Relationship, Who Do We Blame?
Compatibility in Deen and Character......
Sincerity of Intention.
Watch Your Back, Be Sincere..
Look before You Leap, Marriage Is Beyond Mere
Appearance.
Are You Ready to Get Married?.
Love Is Fitnah: Oh You Jewel, Beware!
Are You Looking for A Righteous Husband Or Wife?......35
Marriage: A Test Of Faith
Trials Will Come
Do Not Compare Your Marriage With Others.
My Observation on Marriage and Divorce.
My Husband Is Marrying another Wife, I Can't Take It
Any Longer.
Marriage and Sexual Life
Marriage-Parenthood Or Raising Better Children.
Sex Education and Muslim Parents..
Evils of Masturbation...
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Be good towards women, show mercy and affection towards your daughters and sisters. Be the one who brings happiness to your women.
Do not break a fragile heart. May Allah (J) ease
the affairs of our homes.
My Husband Is Marrying another Wife, I Can't Take It Any Longer
ear, life would not end, and I advise you on patience and perseverance. This chapter is prompted by one of our dear sisters and it is necessary I mention some points regarding it. The life is short and will end sooner or later. Allah () says:
بلْ تُؤْثِرُونَ الْحَيَوةَ الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةُ خَيْرٌ وابقى )
"Nay, you prefer the life of this world; Although the Hereafter is better and more lasting, "39
Life is a test, and like I always say, we are all being tested differently. I recall telling someone I have lost count of how many times I felt cheated in my marriage from all angles. I have said it loud and clear even when some strangers have wronged my innocent heart. But I know Allah (a) does not wrong anyone. May He not test us more than we can bear. One thing is very sure; He takes revenge for the one who is being oppressed. Allah () is far from being unjust.
وإِن طَافَنَانِ مِنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ اقْتَتَلُوا فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَهُمَا فَإِنْ بَغَتْ إِحْدَثَهُمَا عَلَى الْأُخْرَىٰ فَقَتَتِلُوا فين إلى أَمْرِ الو فَإِن فَاءَتْ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَهُمَا بِالْعَدْلِ وَأَقْسِطُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ
المُقْسِطِينَ
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why this book is very important to our daughters and younger sisters who are gradually approaching their time of marriage. This book is meant to serve as an eye opener to every woman who is planning to get married. It will serve as a reminder to our spinsters and a form of re-orientation for the married people.
Majeedah Ashimi Idris
(Umm Sumayyah Mai)
22nd Rabi Al-Awwal, 1442 AH
8th, October 2020
Why Marriage Is Important
L'ommit
et a bored, divorced, depressed3 or widowed woman tell you the reason why she wants to suicide, or why she has suddenly dissociated herself from friends and family, then you will understand, very deeply, why marriage is not only important but fundamental to human life and forms an integral part of worldly achievements.
Marriage helps us to rectify some loopholes in our lives; it helps us to bridge those gaps that our hearts have been longing for, and places us on a low scale of suicide ideation or intoxication. Being free from this and having a working marital relationship is apparently a great achievement. A successful marriage is indeed a great achievement. It is a completion of one's belief as a Muslim. It is indeed a great dream any woman or man wishes to fulfill in life.
Allah's Messenger () said:
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يَا مَعْشَرَ الشَّبَابِ، مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ مِنْكُمُ الْبَاءَةَ فَلْيَتَزَوَّجُ، فَإِنَّهُ أَغَضُّ لِلْبَصَرِ، وَأَحْصَنُ لِلْفَرْجِ، وَمَنْ لَمْ يَسْتَطِعْ فَعَلَيْهِ بِالصَّوْمِ؛ فَإِنَّهُ لَهُ وِجَاءٌ
"O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who
3 Marriage helps alleviate depression according to Melinda Wenner in an article published in 2007 available at https://www.livescience.com/4490-depression-rx- married.html#:~:text=People%20who%20are%20looking%20to, the%20marriage%2 Ois%20so%2Dso accessed on October 18th, 2020.
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Marriage Success Tips
n the first place, for any relationship to be successful, it must be built upon solid foundation
truthfulness and not falsehood. Every successful marriage and or relationship must have many ingredients that accompany it, such as patience, perseverance, prayers, empathy, love and affection, compassion, trustworthiness, good character, and mannerism and to cap it up, fruitful communication
and intervention.
Couples must learn the habit of consultation and be sincere to accept any reasonable evaluations and corrections as matters arise. They must be ready to acknowledge their mistakes and learn to apologize, no matter how small the issue is. They should be available during conflicts resolution by following the Islamic guidelines as described in both the Qur'an and the
:says (سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى) Allah .(صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّم) hadith of the Prophet
وإن امرأةٌ خَافَتْ مِنْ بَعْلِهَا نُشُورًا أَوْ إِعْرَاضًا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَن يُصْلِحَا بَيْنَهُمَا صُلحاً وَالصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ وَأَحْضِرَتِ الْأَنفُسُ الشُّحَّ وَإِن تُحْسِنُوا وَتَتَّقُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا )
"And if a woman fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part, there is no sin on them both if they make terms of peace between themselves; and making peace is better. And human inner-selves are swayed by greed. But i
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ABOUT THE BOOK
Marriage is a very important matter in Islam, the like of which cannot be overemphasized. However, lack of proper knowledge and understanding of marriage conditions and rights result in failing relationships. This book has been carefully written to encompass many essential issues ranging from preparation to life after marriage. In addition, the author gave certain marriage success tips, which every couple will find expedient. As I have observed, the book is but a pristine piece of advice to both youngsters and already- married couples; everyone needs it. May Allah bless the writer.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Majeedah Ashimi Idris is a Practicing Registered Nurse in the United State (USA). Majeedah has a great passion for writing from the depth of her heart on religious matters with a bid to fill vacuums and heal broken hearts. Majeedah attended Washington Adventist University in Maryland, USA, where she bagged a Bachelor of Science Degree in Nursing and she's on the verge of becoming a Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner (PMHNP). Majeedah is happily married and she is blessed with children.
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