Secrets to Successful Families By Afshan Khan

Page no :1 Secrets to
Successful
Families
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Afshan Khan

Page no:2 Contents
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from yourselves may find tranquillity placed between you

Page no:3 Secrets to Successful Families provides an honest and hard-hitting look at more complex marital and family issues, such as lack of emotion, anger, narcissism, addiction and infidelity. Most of these behaviours have a back story and root cause. This book digs deeper to find those root causes in order to effect lasting solutions and secure a brighter future for all. It covers:
The concept of the emotional baggage that we bring into marriage
The idea of core beliefs and how these are linked to
childhood experiences
▸ How these core beliefs manifest as negative behaviours in married life
▸ Self-esteem and how nurturing this is at the heart of
successful family life
▸ Detailed advice to break the generational patterns that have embedded themselves in our psyche
▸ Practical personal growth tools for healing.
Afshan Khan (Umm Asim), founder of Sukoon Healing, shares the benefit of her thirty-five years' counselling experience and wisdom in this book that is packed with common sense, actual case studies and practical to-do lists.
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Page no:4 Chapter 2
What Gives Rise to Emotional Baggage?
wives of tomorrow that are the caretakers of the next generatie To put it bluntly, we are shaping the marriages and childho of the next few decades, while ours have been shaped by who have parented before us.
This nurture sits in tandem with our nature- the bi personality that cannot be moulded and shaped but raw and natural. We have drives and wishes that deeper self and we can call this the organismic se authentic and genuine form of oneself.
In this chapter we will take a detailed look at some of of parental/carer behaviour and childhood exper scenarios that can give rise to emotional baggage. From
will be able see how core beliefs:
are in the past.
are formed and how
When our current self is far removed from e self, there can be feelings of hopelessness and d always conflicted between the two. This is inn the turning point in someone's life comes wh the person they have become is too far rema self that they were or would like to be. One to this can be to lead a double life.
through into adult life even when those people and ex By the end of this chapter, you should be able to ide core beliefs and what has given rise to them and to be a
relatione
you are carrying these through into your present re Ford of us Today
One of the most common comm "If you meet my spouse you would and perfectly reasonable. You won' you about them." Spouses are left rtive to othe