Halal Intimacy from the Islamic Perspective | Abdullateef Abdullah

• Abdullateef Abdullah

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Forward By
Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips
Forward By
Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips
HALAL HALAL
INTIMACY
from the Islamic Perspective
Strictly for Married & Prospective Couples
INTIMACY
from the Islamic Perspective
Strictly for Married & Prospective Couples
ABDULLATEEF ABDULLAHI
Medically Reviewed By
Prof. Gafar Abiodun Akanbi Jimoh Consultant Obstetrician and Gynecologist
ABDULLATEEF ABDULLAHI
Medically Reviewed By
Prof. Gafar Abiodun Akanbi Jimoh Consultant Obstetrician and Gynecologist
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Table of contents
Dedication..........
Table of Contents...
Symbols Directory..
Acknowledgement.
Foreword by Abdullahi Ibrahim Teslim.
Reviewer's Note...........
Foreword by Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips..
Preface...........
Marriage in Islām..
Early Marriage.
Sexual Hygiene.
Sex and Communication...
Seduction..........
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Dressing Sexy Stripteasing..
26
30
Erotic Talk..
36
Sexting.
40
Massage.
46
Erogenous Spots..
49
G-Spot.
51
Kissing.
53
Oral Sex..
57
Fingering.
62
Handjob.
66
Masters and Johnson on Sex.
69
Sex Styles and Positions.
74
Sex Timing..........
85
Sex and Nights of Ramadan.
87
Quickie...........
Sex and Fertility..
94
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Sex and Pregnancy....
109
Sexual Performance..
115
Masturbation
120
Pornography
128
Sexual Dysfunction
139
FGM and Women
145
Frigidity........
148
Boosting Libido.
Show Killers........
150
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
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Sex and Stress
167
Sex and Polygyny..
172
"There is Love in Sharing".
175
Size Issue.
178
Sex Starvation..
186
Orgasm..
190
Cuddling...
195
Holding or Reciting the Qur'an
in a State of Junub (Sexual Impurity).
When Janabah Becomes Obligatory..
How to Perform Janābah...
Water for Ghusl (Purification)..
Purifying with Tayammum............
Bibliography...........
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Marriage in Islam
Bharth, some essential elements must be met. There
efore a marriage can be validly conducted under the
must be 'äqidan (contracting parties) who are required to communicate the ijab (offer) and qabul (acceptance). There must be a waliyy (the guardian) of the woman that is to be married. Without the clear consent of a woman's guardian, a marriage cannot be valid." It is against the shari'ah for a waliyy to force or coerce his daughter to marry someone she does not love or someone she does not want to get married to. Her clear consent must be sought and obtained. Love is indispensible in a marriage. Any marriage that lacks love is bound to fail. Allah says:
وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً
17 Allah says: "then, marry them with their people's leave" [Q4:25]
MARRIAGE IN ISLAM 1
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Holding or Reciting the Qur'an in a State of Junub (Sexual Impurity)
1-Imam ibn Hajar reported a hadith in his Bulu-
Ag
ghul Maram that suggests prohibition of holding the Qur'an in a state of junub or any form of major impurity.321 The Hadith was narrated by Abdullah ibn Abi Bakr . The hadith is dha'eef (weak) according to Sheikh Al-Albani.322 Sheikh Al-Bassam, however, said in his explanation of the hadith that it is better not to hold the Qur'an in a state of impurity. This is one of the ways of honouring the Qur'an. But the hadith of 'Aishah where the Messenger said her haidh (menstruation is not in her hand) implies the
321 Ahmad, 628; Abu Dawud, 229
322 See Dha'eeful Jami', 2333
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Purifying with Tayammum
ased on the hadith of Jabir Ibn Abdillah, purposes
was serve as a
for purification.359 In the hadith of Hudhayfah,it was said that the land is bestowed upon us for cleaning if we cannot find water.360 In the hadith of 'Ali ibn Abi Talib, it was reported that the Messenger said, "And I was given sand as a means of purification."361 The hadith of 'Ammar ibn Yasir shows that someone can perform tayammum (dried ablution) 362 if he or she is in a state of junub and water is not available. The Prophet taught him how to perform tayam- mum: by striking his palms on the soil once; rubbing his left
359 Bukhari, 335, Muslim, 521
360 Muslim, 522
361 Musnad Ahmad, 765 (rendered weak by Sheikh Al-Albani in Dha'eef Al- jāmi', 952)
362 The evidence for tayammum as an injunction is in Q4:43
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HALAL
INTIMACY
from the Islamic Perspective
Issues relating to bedding, mating, love-making or sex; topics couples find extremely difficult to talk about-which have torn many peaceful marriages into pieces-are given a comprehensive, step-by-step analysis in the book HALAL INTIMACY: From the Islamic Perspective. For couples who have been in marriage for years, the ones whose relationships are still young, and those who just got enrolled on the institution, reading through this painstakingly researched and meticulously written treatise would make sex a new experience. There are no dull moments from cover to cover, as the language is simple and nailed frankly. Give it a try, and you'd never regret picking it up.
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