الجنة تحت قدميك من دار نشر تا ها

الجنة تحت قدميك من دار نشر تا ها

كتاب "جنة تحت أقدامكِ" لأم حسن بنت سليم دليلٌ قيّمٌ وروحانيٌّ للنساء المسلمات في فترة الحمل. يمزج الكتاب بين التعاليم الإسلامية والمنظورات المعاصرة، ويستكشف الحمل كرحلة جسدية ونفسية، مقدمًا نصائحَ مُغذّية، وأدعيةً، وتشجيعًا على التضرع إلى الله خلال هذه الفترة التحوّلية.

من المؤلف:

الحمل للمرأة المسلمة: الحمل هو الوقت الأمثل للتقرب إلى الله. فهو ليس مجرد عملية جسدية، بل هو أيضًا رحلة روحية وعاطفية مليئة بالإثارة والقلق. ترافق "جنة تحت أقدامكِ" الأخوات في هذه المرحلة الجميلة من الحياة.
في حين أن هناك الكثير من الأدبيات المليئة بالنصائح للأم الحامل، فإن هذا الكتاب يتناول الموضوع من وجهة نظر المسلمة، ويتناول أفكار ومخاوف شخص يبحث عن وجهة نظر إسلامية حول ما هي لحظة فريدة ومميزة في حياتها.

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نقوم بشحن الطلبات مباشرة من مستودعاتنا في المملكة المتحدة والولايات المتحدة الأمريكية، ونقدم خيارات شحن متعددة لتناسب احتياجاتك. نحن نشحن بفخر إلى جميع أنحاء العالم.

عمليات التسليم في المملكة المتحدة (من مستودع المملكة المتحدة):

يصل الشحن القياسي عادةً في غضون 3-4 أيام عمل. يستغرق التسليم السريع 2-3 أيام عمل. نهدف إلى شحن الطلبات في نفس اليوم أو يوم العمل التالي، مع توفر خيارات التوصيل في اليوم التالي حيثما ينطبق ذلك.

عمليات التسليم في الولايات المتحدة الأمريكية (من مستودع الولايات المتحدة الأمريكية):

تصل الطلبات عادةً في غضون 4-7 أيام عمل.

أوروبا (يتم الشحن من المملكة المتحدة):

يستغرق التسليم القياسي حوالي 6-10 أيام عمل، مع توفر خدمات الشحن السريع في غضون 3-5 أيام عمل.

كندا:

الوقت المقدر للتسليم هو 5-10 أيام عمل.

الشحن في جميع أنحاء العالم:

تصل الطلبات الدولية بشكل عام في غضون 5-20 يوم عمل، اعتمادًا على الوجهة وطريقة الشحن المختارة.

للحصول على جداول زمنية دقيقة للتسليم بناءً على موقعك، يرجى الاتصال بنا عبر البريد الإلكتروني وسيقدم فريقنا معلومات مفصلة ومخصصة لعنوانك.

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Heaven
Under Your Feet
Pregnancy for Muslim Women
Umm Hasan bint Salim
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All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in any retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise without the prior written permission of the publishers.
Written by: Umm Hasan bint Salim
General Editor: Dr. Abia Afsar-Siddiqui
Book & Cover Design by: Shakir Abdulcadir
A catalogue record of this book is available from the British Library.
Printed and bound by: IMAK Ofset, Turkey
This book is not intended to replace the services of trained health professionals, or be a substitute for medical advice. You are advised to consult with your healthcare professional with regard to matters relating to your health, and in particular regarding matters that may require diagnosis or medical attention.
The kingdom of the heavens and earth belongs to Allah. He creates whatever He wills. He gives daughters to whoever He wishes; and He gives sons to whoever He wishes; Or He gives them both sons and daughters; and He makes whoever He wishes barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Capable.
(Surah Ash-Shura 42:49-50)
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Contents
Foreword
Preface to Second Edition 8 Preface to First Edition
Acknowledgements
I. You
Becoming a Mother
Magnificent Mum
A Whole New Bodily Experience
Improving Salah
Ramadan and Fasting
Hajj and Umrah
Emotional Changes
A Time for Patience
Thanking Allah
Where is my Waistline?!
'Awrah and Exposure of the Body
Stress in Pregnancy
Depression During Pregnancy
Thinking of Death with the Start of Life
Breastfeeding
Husbands of Pregnant Women
II. Your Baby
I Can Hear You!
The Remembrance of Allah
Qur'an for Babies
Mind Those Ears!
It's Never Too Late
The Soul
Calculating Ensoulment
Du'a for a Righteous Soul
Contents
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where the birth occurred or how long the labour lasted. Any mother who decides against pain relief and finds she uses it should not belittle herself or her decision. Any mother who gives birth with no form of pain relief only does so with Allah's leave and permission because all that anybody goes through is from Him. We praise Allah whatever happens and are grateful to Him, always.
The First Cry - Curse You Shaytan!
Why do babies cry when they are born? The Prophet said:
There is none born among the offspring of Adam, but Shaytan touches it. A child therefore cries loudly at the time of birth because of the touch of Shaytan, except Maryam and her child.
(Bukhari, Book of Prophets)
As our bump grows and we become more attached to our baby, we begin to feel increasingly concerned by the above hadith. The thought that Shaytan 'gets his hands' on our baby, even before we have been able to hold them in our arms horrifies us. The desire to protect our baby from all harm can enlighten us on the fact that Shaytan is ever present. Perhaps, for once, when we think of this hadith, we truly recognise Shaytan as our enemy. In our everyday lives we are often too lax when it comes to Shaytan, even though Allah says:
Shaytan is a clear-cut enemy to man.
(Surah Yusuf 12:5)
Shaytan is your enemy so treat him as an enemy.
He summons his party to be among the people ofte the Searing Blaze.
(Surah Fatir 35:6)
An enemy is someone we should constantly be wary of and have our defences up and ready for, but we hardly remember that Shaytan
The First Cry - Curse You Shaytan!
is even there! This creates the most dangerous type of enemy; one we don't even realise is out there, not only watching and waiting, but
in full force.
The minute that our babies enter this world they are faced with Shaytan. He is there witnessing the birth. We have to be there to counteract him. This we can do in two ways. Firstly, we can seek refuge in Allah from Shaytan, and ask our husbands to join us in
this du'a:
Abu Huraira said, "The Prophet said, 'No child is born but that Shaytan touches it when it is born whereupon it starts crying loudly because of being touched by Shaytan, except Maryam and her Son.""
Then Abu Huraira recited:
إِنِّي أُعِيدُهَا بِكَ وَذُرِّيَّتَهَا مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّحِيمِ
Inni u'idhuha bika wa dhurriyyataha minash shaytan nir rajim
And I seek refuge with You for her and for her offspring from the outcast Shaytan. (Surah Al-'Imran 3:36)
(Bukhari, Book of Prophets)
The second way is to say the adhan when our baby is born as the adhan drives Shaytan far away:
Shaytan hears the call to prayer, he runs away to a distance like that of Rawha' (a distance of thirty-six miles from Madinah).
(Muslim, Book of Prayers)
We can also continue to seek protection for our newborn babies through a du'a the Prophet used to make for his grandsons, Al-Hasan and Al-Husain:
Your forefather (i.e. Ibrahim) used to seek refuge with Allah for Isma'il and Ishaq by reciting the following:
The First Cry - Curse You Shaytan!
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Every child is born with a true faith (i.e. to worship none but Allah alone or on the fitrah) but his parents convert him to Judaism or to Christianity or to a Fire- worshipper, as an animal delivers a perfect baby animal. Do you find it mutilated?
(Bukhari, Book of Funerals)
In this saying of the Prophet, we as parents are responsible for keeping our children on the fitrah and guiding them firm on the Straight Path. It is not something that children learn to do themselves, or that we leave solely in the hands of Allah with no effort on our part. This endeavour in raising good Muslim children can begin now, even before we have held our children in our arms. By strengthening our own character and developing in our faith, we can strive to become better believers. We, as parents, can be role models for our children. Let our learning continue and grow in our pregnancy by utilising our time well, reading Islamic books and attending classes.
It is our duty to ensure our children develop to become sincere Muslims; a weighty responsibility, which we must now embrace and ask Allah to help us with. We beg Allah to make us amongst the best of parents.
A Whole New Bodily Experience
Pregnancy is an experience where no body part seems to go unscathed. After being unaware of the tiny being growing inside us, most of us are soon swamped by the colourful wave of symptoms that accompany early pregnancy. We quickly realise that our bodies are not their usual selves as we find ourselves making frequent dashes to the toilet and wanting to sleep all day. Welcome to pregnancy!
The physical changes in the first trimester often unsettle many of us. Consequently, the beginnings of a pregnancy can have a detrimental effect on our 'ibadah (worship). We may find that we are busy being sick after the Fajr prayer instead of reciting Qur'an or we cannot concentrate as well on what we are reading. When it comes to salah (ritual prayer), standing up too long or changing positions
A Whole New Bodily Experience
can make us feel dizzy and staying in sujood (prostration) can make us nauseous. Often, we simply have less time for 'ibadah because we need to sleep more than usual, or we are less active than normal and everything seems to take a lot longer to do.
It might seem as though we are wasting time, being lazy or not achieving much because of these changes in our daily routine. It can be helpful to remind ourselves that this is quite normal, even expected. We are pregnant, not quite our usual physical selves and often not entirely 'healthy'. This is the one time we should really listen to our bodies and react to them accordingly.
Let us not forget that it is not just ourselves that we need to look after, but that there is another tiny, highly dependent being forming inside us. Now there are two of us to care for. We must sit down whenever we need to and nap whenever we feel the need to as our bodies are demanding rest. We also need to eat what we like and leave what we do not like, as is the sunnah. So if the smell of chicken is nauseating, we shouldn't feel bad about not eating it! Our bodies are telling us what is good for us and what
is not, so we ought to listen to them.
The reward of deeds depends
upon the intentions and every person will get the reward according to what he has intended.
Sukhan Book of Belief)
At the same time, we are not 'ill' and cannot excuse ourselves from 'ibadah. Pregnancy is not an opportunity to slacken off in our worship. Instead, we need to aim for the exact opposite. Allah has, insha'Allah, blessed us with nine continuous months for His remembrance through salah, without any breaks, thanks to not having a period. This is an opportunity not to be missed. Pregnancy is not an excuse from prayer. We can use pregnancy as a chance to make the effort to reform our souls, whilst maintaining a balance that is physically healthy for us.
Being pregnant is a time in our lives when we need Allah's blessings in a way not known to us before. During pregnancy we are careful about how we strain ourselves physically and we watch what we eat and drink to avoid harming the new being inside us. Ultimately though, we rely on Allah to get us, and our babies,
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baby and our ability as a mother in countless ways to keep this correct perspective. Bear in mind that our number one priority is the remembrance of Allah 3. Our children should not be a distraction from this.
Of course, children do not have to be the cause of distraction or destruction; rather, they will insha'Allah be a door to Jannah. Children are a unique bounty as they are one of only three things
that can continue to benefit us after we die:
When a man dies, accrual of merit in his favour from good deeds ceases except from three actions: charity which continues after his death, knowledge left behind from which men continue to benefit and righteous offspring who pray for him.
(Muslim, Book of Bequests)
In addition, insha'Allah, the good we receive through our babies is one that does not cease when we do.
A man will be raised some degrees in Paradise and he will say, "For what reason am I receiving this?" He will be told, "Because of your son asking forgiveness for you." (Muslim, Book of Bequests)
Imagine the bliss of attaining Jannah and then having an added surprise of a position higher than expected! This we can await if we raise our children to remember us and seek forgiveness for us. It can be powerful fuel, particularly during trying times, to remind ourselves that every effort for our baby can be a source of such great happiness on the Day we meet our Lord, if we raise them for His sake. Such aspirations form the foundations of the intentions that we must have now, at the beginning of our journey of motherhood. We thank Allah for this wonderful opportunity to multiply our good deeds with every single day that we have with our children.
May He make us amongst the best of mothers and grant us amongst the best of children. Ameen.
Collection of Du'as
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A New Life Begins
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■Congratulations, you're pregnant!
Alhamdulillah, we have been blessed with the gift of a new baby growing inside us and our du'as (supplications) have been answered. Many of us treasure the memory of that positive result on the pregnancy test and the feelings we had when we first discovered we were expecting a baby. From that day on, we have never been the same again.
Pregnancy is not merely a physical process that is limited to our bodies. Pregnancy is also a mental and emotional journey filled with excitement, anxiety, happiness and lots of questions. Expecting a baby is a time of immense psychological change and preparation. This is when we begin the lifelong journey of motherhood.
Every mother to be, Muslim or not, wants only the best for her child. Every woman knows that this is not just about giving them the best pushchair and clothes, or the best milk, or the best toys. It is also about giving them the best mum there can be. This does not come with a few shopping sprees. Instead, what is needed is a recipe of du'a, dedication and effort, all of which the mother can begin with when pregnant.
This is why many pregnant women often realise that these special nine months are the ultimate time to turn to Allah 3. We vow to take this time to reform and improve ourselves. As mothers-to-be, we become acutely aware of how our children will learn from us as soon as they meet us. This may not be how we have thought about it, but this is the time for us to embark on a journey of self-rectification as essential preparation for the grave responsibility awaiting us.
Becoming a Mother
"Clearly, deciding to have children is not a particularly rational decision and if we really sat down and calculated the financial burden, the heartache and the sleepless nights, then most people would probably decide against reproduction."
1 Ganley, J. (2004), Becoming a Parent: The Emotional Journey through Pregnancy
and Childbirth, Wiley
Becoming a Mother
This amusing quote is sadly a manifestation of the thought processes of
many women today when contemplating having children. Ganley continues, "So why does it continue to be the choice that the majority will make?" Though Ganley leaves us with no answer to her interesting question, I'd like us to ask ourselves, why did we want to become a mother?
Many of us do not capture our desire to become pregnant as "wanting to become a mother". Instead we may have said, "I want
Verily, heaven is found
at her [mother's] feet (Nasai, Book of Fighting in the Way of Allah)
to have a baby". Wanting to be a mother sounds dull, tiresome and full of responsibility, whereas babies are cute and adorable! Perhaps, this is the first time we have thought of ourselves as mothers-to-be, even though we know that we are carrying a baby!
Whether or not this is the first time we have thought of the prospect of becoming mums, addressing this question of why we decide to be mothers is essential as it is synonymous with the intention we form in becoming mothers. The intention of becoming a mother is of paramount importance because:
The reward of deeds depends upon the intentions and every person will get the reward according to what he has intended.
(Bukhari, Book of Belief)
It is in the light of this saying of the Prophet that it is of vital importance that we analyse our answers to the big question of why we decide to have children. Every minute of every day with our babies can hold potential rewards for us if we have the best of intentions. If our intention to have babies is one that Allah is well pleased with then insha'Allah our pregnancy, our babies, and our lives with them, will bear fruit upon fruit. If this hope for the greatest rewards with our Lord is part and parcel of our intention in becoming mothers then we are treading the path to success.
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Congratulations! You're expecting!
Heaven Under Your Feet is the perfect book to accompany you along this precious phase in your life.
From the moment you find out you are pregnant right through labour, Umm Hasan answers your questions, addresses your concerns and offers practical advice from an Islamic perspective of how to make the most of your pregnancy.
Written in consultation with Muslim medical professionals with input from Islamic scholars, this is a book that no Muslim family expecting a baby should be without.
Umm Hasan graduated from Oxford University in Experimental Psychology. She has studied at Darul- Uloom, Oxford and is currently enrolled with Al- Qalam Institute, Leicester. She is a full-time mother and home educator of six children.